Top 10 Tips To Last Longer In Bed

Sep 28th, 2009 by How To Last Longer In Bed

Do you avoid women in general,and sex specifically due to premature ejaculation? Are you afraid of the embarrassment AGAIN from coming to quickly? Well,lets remedy that as that is no way to live!

One of the simplest,yet most POWERFUL ways to control your rate of arousal and last longer in bed is to learn to control your breating rate. Take deep full breaths,preferably through your nose,deep into your belly. Shallow chest breathing leads to early ejaculation. It can be easy to lose track of this in the heat of the moment,however,awareness and control of the breath is crucial to controlling your ejaculation. It’s a great idea to learn how to do this outside of the bedroom in meditation. This way its already programmed in your mind so that it automatically occurs during sex.
Wearing a condom is a great way to avoid premature ejaculation. The thin barrier between your penis and the womans vagina can take that extra edge off,allowing you to last longer. If extra help is needed,there are now special condoms that have a desensitizing gel on the inside. This way,your member is lightly numbed,providing you with stamina,while keeping her happy.
The good ole stop/start technique. Just how it sounds,when you are getting close to orgasm,simply stop and rest for a moment. Remember your deep breating as this will help you get back to baseline much quicker. Don’t forget about your lover though. You may need a break,but she does not! Keep her stimulated with your hand or mouth,or perhaps encourage her to masturbate to keep the heat up!
Don’t forget foreplay! Oral sex and manual stimulation with your fingers can go along way in taking the pleasure off of you. It gets her that much closer to orgasm before you even start intercourse.
Learn different ways to use your penis besides just thrusting in and out like a powersaw. Circular motions,side to side,up and down…this will give much appreciated direct pressure and stimulation to her clitoris while at the same time taking the extreme stimulation off of the head of your penis. Mix and match,its not only the spice of life,its the key to help you last longer in bed!
Switch positions. Many men can last longer with the woman on top. It allows you to relax your diaphragm making deep breating easier. It also takes the tension off of alot of the muscles that are engaged in a position such as missionary. Tense muscles lead to ejaculation. Plus,many women orgasm much easier in a ‘grindable’ position on top of you. Give it a try
Control your mind. If you need extreme diversionary tactics at first then go for it. Just be sure to keep your mind in the game enough to keep your erection going. However,eventually we want to be fully present and focused on the lovemaking process. An ancient technique for connecting mind and body and allowing the sexual energy to flow is to simply touch the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth. This has been taught in ancient tantric traditions for thousands of years. Try it the next time your with your lover,or pleasuring yourself.
Strenghten your PC muscle. This is the muscle that you use to stop the flow of urine. It also can stop your ejaculation if you strenghten it enough. Start slow and work up in reps and duration to avoid overly stressing the muscle. A good starter routine would be ten reps held for ten seconds each,once a day.Work up from there,note your results,be patient.
Purposefully orgasm before intercourse. Swap oral and/or manual stimulation with your partner. It’s exciting to masturbate with your partner. Give yourselves,or each other,a full orgasm in this way before you even attempt intercourse. This greatly takes the pressure off,both physically and psychologically.
Last but certainly not least,keep on learning! Use the techniques here and in the other articles on this blog,and keep on learning everything you possibly can.