“Why Women Break Up With Men”
Feb 3rd, 2010 by How To Last Longer In Bed
Hi guys, I subscribe to various sex related newsletters to learn as much as I possible can, and in turn, pass that knowledge on to you by creating a sort of sexual aggregator of information here at my blog.
Here is one especially good one that I hope you enjoy.
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THE ALLMAN REPORT:
“Why Women Break Up With Men”
If sex in your relationship is something
that you are at all worried about, then the bad
news is… that it probably is A MEANINGFUL WARNING
SIGN.
Obviously there are many reasons that the
physical part of a relationship is less than
perfect.
Sadly, it’s very rare for ANY couple these
days to have banging-off-the-walls, screaming,
crazy, out-of-control love making that leaves both
partners completely blissful and satisfied (and sharing
deep feelings of connection and contentment).
But when it’s so-so or when interest
seems low, it is very often a warning sign of other
problems in the relationship…
OR… the seed from which other problems
grow.
Before I get too deeply into this and
really examine what’s going on, let me just quickly
tell you here at the beginning, that one very EASY
solution is to learn how to completely BLOW HER
MIND whenever you want to in the bedroom.
Because, for many reasons that I’m about to
explain, men who can do that are VERY RARE, and
women know it, and so a woman will almost never
leave a man who can do that for her without a very
good reason.
A woman might complain that her husband
doesn’t help with the housework– but believe me,
no woman ever left a relationship for that reason.
**In fact, the reason she’s complaining about
the housework probably has very little to do with
the housework itself**
You’ve probably figured out by now that
there are many, many things you can do that
generally annoy women.
Let’s face it, women are just easily annoyed
sometimes.
You may have also figured out (and this is
a very, very painful one to figure out), that even
if you do everything RIGHT, even if you love her
and give her your time, attention, gifts, and even
help with the housework… That women sometimes
leave or cheat.
And I don’t want to sound cynical and say,
“it’s all about the sex.”
It’s not… not at all…
But if that part is GREAT, she is not going
anywhere. And she is not cheating.
Obviously I’m over-simplifying a bit because
if you abuse her, are overly controlling, or just
completely incompatible, then great sex might keep
you together longer than you SHOULD be together…
But if the relationship is reasonably solid,
great love making, all by itself, can forgive almost
anything else.
What I need you to understand here is that
this is not just because she’s having a bunch
orgasm… though that doesn’t hurt any!
And I don’t want to minimize the pain of
what it’s like to have your woman cheat on you or
leave you when you want to the relationship to
continue.
And I don’t want to be the jerk who says that
“all a woman needs is a good time between the sheets.”
GOOD sex can happen just because you learned
some “techniques” or because she happens to be one
of those women who can achieve orgasm easily, and
it’s really not that rare or that big a deal.
But GREAT sex can only happen if other, more
important aspects are going well in the relationship.
But I don’t just mean the things your mom
or your marriage counselor said were important– like
“respect” or being better at “communicating.”
Those things are important. But…
What a woman REALLY craves is intimacy and
excitement.
A man who can really rock her world though,
is one who has learned how to do do both. Not just
give her excitement, but also give and receive
intimacy comfortably.
Maybe you have bought other books on good
sex. Maybe you learned some cool tongue technique
for pleasing a woman. And maybe you even gave her
a bunch of orgasms.
That’s great.
But it’s not even 10 percent of what makes
a great lover– the kind of man that women brag
about, the kind of man that they fantasize about…
the kind of man they would simply never consider
leaving or cheating on.
To really unlock a woman’s full sexual
potential and take her to places that, amazingly,
even she is usually completely unaware that she was
capable of… to do that, you need something much
more profound.
And when you learn those secrets, then even
the very first time you make love to a woman, you
can completely blow her mind and, if you want, even
capture her heart through the act of the love making.
I do not believe that love and sex are the
same thing, and you certainly shouldn’t either.
But we do call it “making love,” for a
very good reason. It is because the two ARE related.
Can you have great sex without love?
Yes.
Can you have great sex without the courage
and confidence to build intimacy– even if that
connection is brief?
Nope.
And you can’t have love without intimacy
either… of course.
And that’s where the two are related.
For most men, sex does not have to be a
very intimate act. In fact, for most men, the
intimacy part makes the whole thing a bit
intimidating.
It’s fun, it feels good, but there’s
a lot of weird pressure and uncertainty about the
whole thing.
And women feel that, and it blocks their
ability to feel the kind of intimacy and trust that
will open them up completely to your touch.
So how do you make a woman “FEEL intimacy?”
I’m going to give you a few ideas now, but
I go into this subject in detail and explain
the entire process starting on page 113 of my eBook.
If you are ready to get this really mastered so
that you can easily create the emotions in a woman
that allow her to experience her most powerful and
profound orgasms, you can read it right now by clicking
here
The first step to creating that intimacy is
to gain CONFIDENCE.
In other words, get rid of that “weird pressure
and uncertainty about the whole thing.”
Part of this comes from actually spending the
time to learn about women and female sexuality so that
you are confident that you know the basic techniques
of being a good lover.
Understanding the basic structure of how to
make a girl come– even girls that have trouble
achieving orgasms with their partners.
But more important, you have to develop your
sexual identity as a confident lover.
Confidence is a funny thing…
Part of it comes from acquiring a skill (if you
feel confident without skill, you are not really
confident at all– just brash or arrogant or even
deluded).
But part does come from simply believing in
your own worth and value. There are many men who
have powerful skills in various important areas–
whether that is carpentry or computers… but still
lack confidence.
On some level confidence is not just about
learning a skill, but also from believing that you are
the right man for the job.
That can take some self esteem and courage.
When a woman DOES feel your confidence,
your courage, your certainty… and your ability to
open to intimacy, it is possible to to do things to
her body that you simply can’t believe until you
have experienced it.
It is so important to understand that
techniques alone just won’t do it.
It’s not enough to know where her clitoris
is or how to use your fingers or tongue in the right
way.
That stuff is good.
And maybe she’ll have an orgasm or even
many powerful orgasms.
But when you really enter the world of her
erotic reality, you can take her to places, that,
seriously, she will not even believe until she
experiences it.
Intimacy and trust are the keys here. And
your confidence is the door that will allow her to
let herself surrender to it.
That will make you a very, very rare man.
As a relationship grows, it is easy to hurt
each other. Little things accumulate that can
break intimacy and trust.
And my book is NOT just about relationships.
I can’t guarantee that I can save any relationship,
so please don’t think that that is what this
newsletter is about.
But I do know this, and I am certain of it.
When the sex is great, there is massive intimacy
and excitement. And that is very, very good news
for a relationship.
It is VERY unlikely that a woman will ever
leave a man like that unless he does some pretty
terrible stuff.
And cheating?
Very unlikely.
Women cheat for many complex reasons, and
I’m certainly not saying that a woman who is having
good sex won’t want good sex somewhere else too if
there are other emotional issues to deal with…
But the kind of great love making I’m talking
about makes that kind of thing virtually impossible.
Realize this, and it will give you profound
knowledge and power in your interactions with
women.
Understand that women, and particularly
attractive women, have OPTIONS. A woman can get
sex a lot easier than a man can. And that fact can
give her a lot of validation and excitement if she
is feeling insecure or unloved.
Cheating can add back a lot of the
excitement into a woman’s life and make her ego
feel better when she is feeling disconnected from
you.
And it is very important to realize that
plenty of “good girls” who are very moral people
sometimes find themselves tempted by some very, very
confident, powerful, or attractive men…
IF she is feeling a lack of intimacy and
excitement in her life.
Most of the time, a woman with high ethical
standards will resist this temptation. But
emotions are very difficult to control, and things
that we regret can happen. We are, all of us,
human. And we ALL have done things we regret.
But if a woman is truly being fulfilled
with both excitement and intimacy. If she is having
mind-blowing sex in her life with YOU, then she
will not be tempted. She will not feel either the
need or the desire for that mysterious “something
more.”
The great news is that building this
FEELING of intimacy and excitement is actually
easy.
It does NOT require buying her flowers,
taking her on romantic dinners at sunset, or having
long conversations about “us.”
But it does require that you learn how
women respond emotionally to sex and to your touch,
and to use that knowledge to share with her, what
will be one of the most intense experiences of her
life, and yours too in an authentic and fearless
way.
And if you want to learn how to do that,
then download my eBook right now and find out for
yourself.
I don’t want to sound like I’m bragging, but
I am ridiculously proud of the fact that almost nobody
who has read this book has not agreed that it is all
that I have promised and more… especially not once
they have tried it out with the woman in their lives.
And everything inside is SIMPLE. Sometimes
even OBVIOUS… yet virtually no men are actually
DOING these things.
It’s what we sometimes call “The Elusive
Obvious”.
Either way…
If you don’t grasp the incredible
importance and power of the book… then just shoot
me a quick email, and I’ll instantly refund your money.
No questions or pressure or spam.
Sound fair?
Good.
Follow this link and download it now and
let’s get started on this incredible journey right
now.
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Your Friend,
Alex
